Have you ever been through a phase where you think that your life is a complete mess? That it's better for you to end you? Because no matter how hard you try, you can't change things. You can't solve problems because it feels like it's never ending.
It's like being trapped in a four wall room with only you and your crazy mind. A four wall room full of mirrors for you to see how you and your life is a complete mess. It's like knowing that your life is falling apart yet still being completely helpless. Being constantly reminded of your flaws, your problems, and the flashbacks of every single bad memories in your head.
You know there's a door for you right in front of your face. You can just open and escape but you just simply can't. Feeling suffocated every time you try to move towards the door. When you try to do a step forward, there will always be things that will pull you two steps backwards.
You can just shout and ask others for help, but you don't want to turn yourself into a burden for others. You don't want others to see your vulnerability and to think that you're weak. You think that it's better to let them know the other you, the one that is always happy and enjoying life to the fullest.
Now that is where it all goes wrong.
Human beings all have emotions. Happy, sad, excited, touched, angry, and many more. Even sometimes we can't simply understand our own feelings. It can be messy. And that, sometimes is the center of the problem.
There is no such a thing as being "sensitive" or "overreacting". There are days where we can control our mind well and have a clear mind to think clearly. But sometimes, our feelings get to the best of ourselves.
So what we should do?
OPEN UP. ASK FOR AN OPINION.
Your family. Your friends. Your teachers. Anyone you can trust. Tell them how you feel, what's your struggle or what's your insecurities. Opening up doesn't necessarily make you a weak person.
It makes you a strong person because you acknowledge your feelings.
You know when is your highs and lows, and you work it. You're not ashamed of your humanity side.
Vulnerability is not a weakness, it is a sign of bravery.
No, it doesn't make them feel how you feel and sometimes it doesn't solve problems. BUT IT DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE. There will be a person for you to cry on, to hug you, or to stop you when you take things too far. There's another mind for you to help solve the problem.
The first step is always the hardest. The first talk of "I'm not okay" or "I have a problem" won't be a fun conversation. But the first step will always be the small step to big changes.
We're humans and sometimes we're not capable to fight our battles alone. Not every battle should be fought alone, you also need other warriors to help you make strategies or even fight in the battle ground together.
So, try to open up and find out how big of a difference it could be.
You can just shout and ask others for help, but you don't want to turn yourself into a burden for others. You don't want others to see your vulnerability and to think that you're weak. You think that it's better to let them know the other you, the one that is always happy and enjoying life to the fullest.
Now that is where it all goes wrong.
Human beings all have emotions. Happy, sad, excited, touched, angry, and many more. Even sometimes we can't simply understand our own feelings. It can be messy. And that, sometimes is the center of the problem.
There is no such a thing as being "sensitive" or "overreacting". There are days where we can control our mind well and have a clear mind to think clearly. But sometimes, our feelings get to the best of ourselves.
So what we should do?
OPEN UP. ASK FOR AN OPINION.
Your family. Your friends. Your teachers. Anyone you can trust. Tell them how you feel, what's your struggle or what's your insecurities. Opening up doesn't necessarily make you a weak person.
It makes you a strong person because you acknowledge your feelings.
You know when is your highs and lows, and you work it. You're not ashamed of your humanity side.
Vulnerability is not a weakness, it is a sign of bravery.
No, it doesn't make them feel how you feel and sometimes it doesn't solve problems. BUT IT DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE. There will be a person for you to cry on, to hug you, or to stop you when you take things too far. There's another mind for you to help solve the problem.
The first step is always the hardest. The first talk of "I'm not okay" or "I have a problem" won't be a fun conversation. But the first step will always be the small step to big changes.
We're humans and sometimes we're not capable to fight our battles alone. Not every battle should be fought alone, you also need other warriors to help you make strategies or even fight in the battle ground together.
So, try to open up and find out how big of a difference it could be.
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