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What They Say Should Never Matter

 Your fear is the thing that is holding you back.  That is the quote I've always hold on to. I was one of those people who gets so comfortable in my comfort zone and hates failure. But then I realise that no success comes with no failure. That's it. You never know what you're capable to do until you try something you never knew possible.  One of the biggest issue I've always had is thinking of how other people's opinion would be. I always want to please people, so that was one of my biggest issue. But then again, I realised, I can't please everyone. I remember one of my experience, I was told that I paid to win the competitions. At first, that really shook me.  If only they knew how I spent sleepless trying making my texts. If only they knew I was nearly giving up because I was doubting myself with every step I make. If only they knew the sacrifices I made.  But that's the whole point, they only know half of the picture. All they see is the happy parts, the ...
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Falling Out of Love

Everyday in our life we see people fall in love with another. All our life we have been told how amazing and magical love is. How the power of love could turn a person into their best version of themselves. How love could change someone's life like never before.  But as always, when there's a beginning, there's an end.  When a person can fall in love, they sure can fall out of love.  "You can never forget someone you fell in love with," they said.  Believe me when I say, I actually believe that at first. I actually believed that once you fall in love with someone, you can never erase them from your memory, not even years, decades, or even in a lifetime. But boy I was wrong.  Maybe forgetting someone completely is impossible. But falling out of love is a possibility. I'm not gonna say from the perspective of the person, because I never experienced that. I want to tell you how it feels to see two people falling out of love in a relationship.  In fairytales, w...

What Goodbye is A "Goodbye"?

Losing someone is a fear that many people have. Being attached to a person is bitter-sweet, because you know that nothing lasts forever, people simply come and go. But there is always hope, that tiny little hope in you to have that person in your life forever.  Have you ever said to yourself, "I'm going to miss this moment" or "I'm going to miss him/her", while you're actually with that person at the moment? Like Celine Dion's song "How Does A Moment Last Forever?"  Cause I do, and it hurts. It's like counting down to the moment of you're going to loose them. Sometimes you know when a person would leave, whether they move abroad or maybe going to university or other things. But knowing someone would be gone soon won't ease the pain, right?  I'm one of those person who is pretty much attached to anyone close to me. Losing a close one devastate me. So this kind of thing is tough, but I've learned how to manage this kind of...

Guilt : Psychological Burden?

One of the feelings that we can't simply deny is guilt. It stucks in your head and heart endlessly. It haunts you everywhere and every time.   "I could've done better."   "I could've change things." "Why didn't I do things differently before?"   "Why am I so stupid until I let this thing happen?"  A question we should ask ourselves : No matter how big your guilt is, does it change a thing?   Feeling guilty is a normal thing. It's a good thing actually, because you realise your own mistakes and you have the thought of changing it. It gives you further motivations to better things up in your life ahead. It gives you the need to be better so you don't have to experience bad thing twice.  But what happened when guilt turns into an unnecessary psychological burden? One of the toughest form of guilt is the guilt towards yourself. You can be your own best friend or worst enemy. When you make a mistake toward...

Ask for Help, Seek for Help

Have you ever been through a phase where you think that your life is a complete mess? That it's better for you to end you? Because no matter how hard you try, you can't change things. You can't solve problems because it feels like it's never ending.  It's like being trapped in a four wall room with only you and your crazy mind. A four wall room full of mirrors for you to see how you and your life is a complete mess. It's like knowing that your life is falling apart yet still being completely helpless. Being constantly reminded of your flaws, your problems, and the flashbacks of every single bad memories in your head. You know there's a door for you right in front of your face. You can just open and escape but you just simply can't.  Feeling suffocated every time you try to move towards the door. When you try to do a step forward, there will always be things that will pull you two steps backwards.  You can just shout and ask others for help, bu...