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What Goodbye is A "Goodbye"?

Losing someone is a fear that many people have. Being attached to a person is bitter-sweet, because you know that nothing lasts forever, people simply come and go. But there is always hope, that tiny little hope in you to have that person in your life forever. 

Have you ever said to yourself, "I'm going to miss this moment" or "I'm going to miss him/her", while you're actually with that person at the moment? Like Celine Dion's song "How Does A Moment Last Forever?" 

Cause I do, and it hurts. It's like counting down to the moment of you're going to loose them. Sometimes you know when a person would leave, whether they move abroad or maybe going to university or other things. But knowing someone would be gone soon won't ease the pain, right? 

I'm one of those person who is pretty much attached to anyone close to me. Losing a close one devastate me. So this kind of thing is tough, but I've learned how to manage this kind of pain. 

No, I'm not talking about someone passing away. I'm talking about someone who chose to walk away from your life. 
"When someone walks away from your life, it's not the end of the story. It's the end of their part in your story."
 It's devastating when a person walks out of your life so easily. One day, you're talking, laughing and chatting, the next day they're gone. One day they're your everything, the next day they acted as if nothing ever happened, like you never meant anything.

The biggest question would always be "why". Why did they left? Why didn't they say goodbye? Why everything falls apart? Why can't they stay? 

When losing someone, it's not necessary all about losing that person. It's about losing the memories, habits, and moments that you know won't ever come back. It's like letting go of a part of their your life or a part of day. 

Then the next question would be, where did I do wrong?

Here's the deal. A person won't just walk away without any reason. There's problem, fights, issues. But not all of them is your fault. Never ever blame yourself fully when someone walks away from their life. 

Relationships, with your family, friends, boyfriends or girlfriends, requires two person or more to work it out. People make mistakes, argue, or fight but when they love and care about you, they would work it out for you. 

So how to deal with someone close to you walk out of your life?

First, try to fix it. Try to contact them, make sure that they're at least safe. Apologise and try to explain things. Make sure that both of you are on the same page. Never ever let someone out of your life without a real and true explanation, it would only bring remorse. 

Second, let it go. Some people are not meant for you. Maybe you've done your best. Maybe you've fought hard for them. But it isn't enough for them. Then stop. Fight for someone you love, but never fight for someone to love you. 

Third, move on. This world is a big and beautiful world. There are many people who's out there that can be a better companion to you. Your world DOESN'T depend on a person. Your world DOESN'T fully about a particular person. You are worthy as a person, you don't need to be with someone or you don't need a person justification to be enough. 

Losing someone is tough. Not pretty. Painful. 

But always remember, you can't force someone to stay when all they want to do is to leave. 

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